Sexuality and sensuality are gifts from nature to women and men. It’s energy moving through our system that wants to be expressed! Therefore it can’t be fixed, it’s in us.
But, for various reasons society has been trying to “fix” sexuality with different approaches. A Few centuries ago, women who possessed sexual energy were burned alive, or sent out to live in forests. Religious societies considered them witches. In Africa, they “fixed” female sexuality by cutting young girls genitals. However, they recently decided to end this inhumane procedure, and punish parents by law who continue this practice. In our modern era of progressive research, the approach is slightly different. However, before we look at modern ways of fixing female sexuality, let’s observe some of the natural behaviors of human beings.
Do you remember when you were 3-4 years old? I know it’s difficult to recall, so I will bring attention to our kids instead. For example, have you ever noticed that when little girls receive compliments or are shown interest, they get a little shy? You still unobtrusively keep your interest in her, and with nature’s gift she is awakened... Her eyes lighten up like rays, her body language changes, and the chemistry changes to another level. She’s all over you, and in her childish way she wants more of your attention. Here we begin to see the behavior of a young woman.
Our little girls are growing and becoming a part of our modern world, where sexuality is suppressed by society. By the age of 14 they’ve taken their first pill, and will continue to take them for quite some time. Before you know it we’ve matured and are overwhelmed with stress and have lost sensations of pleasure. Feeling frustrated, we turn to the pharmacological industry who have created yet another pill. This pill is called Addyi, female viagra, a solution for female desire issues. But this doesn’t work.You want to know why? Because female sexuality is not BROKEN!!! Yes we can have a broken heart, be emotionally unwell, or have medical conditions. Everyone has their own reasons to feel these challenges throughout their lives, but it has nothing to do with our sexuality.
Some years ago, I too was taking different medications. I was taking pills for my fertility treatment, later for breast cancer, and lastly pills prescribed for depression during my divorce. I guess the last one was my own verdict and punishment for forgetting about our gift from nature . For forgetting about my identity as a woman and becoming numb in every sense. For trying to please everyone instead of pleasing myself.
I decided no to take the pill. Instead I began my eye -opening rediscovery of everyday little pleasures. The feel of soft sweaters on my skin, the smell of flowers, the feeling of the sun’s rays on my face, and dancing in front of the mirror. I decided to study female sexuality, talking to women and men to try and understand how they feel about their sexuality. I became an intimate pelvic muscle instructor simply because pills could not fix me. I often hear women saying that they are broken.
Ladies please remember that:
- We are not broken!!
- We are enough!!
- And we love our sexuality, authentically in erotic integrity!
To end my reflection on “fixing” sexuality, I can say for both women and men, we all have and will have it externally. Don’t forget and allow this life force energy to awaken in your system. Teach your kids about sexuality and sensuality. Talk to them about these life force energy definitions in the best way possible for their childlike understanding. This way they won’t need to be “fixed” later.